Marriage

Dear Sister,

My first advice is to flee this other relationship immediately. (1 Corinthians 6:18) No matter what your feelings for this man are, they are emotions which are outside God’s will. Nothing else can be resolved until you have left and repented of this relationship.By your own admission both you and your husband have been negligent in your marriage. It’s a good start to admit where you are wrong.

You said, “I don’t feel the marriage can be saved”.

Do you believe Matthew 19:26 which says, “With God all things are possible”?

You said, “Neither one of us is willing to change.”

Why aren’t you? Are you willing to pray for a teachable spirit and a desire to work on this marriage? Are you sure your husband isn’t willing to change? God is clear on this issue...He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) which means He wants this marriage to work.

Your concern about the church is admirable, but this indescretion is still most assuredly affecting the church in ways you are unaware of. Your top concern needs to be your marriage.

After leaving your “other” relationship, spend several days in prayer and fasting. Pray through Psalm 51 which is David’s prayer of repentance after his adulterous relationship with Bathsheba and the subsequent murder of her husband. Seek God’s forgiveness and He will give it. (1 John 1:9) Ask God to show you the best way and right time to approach your husband about your rocky marriage. Pray for God to create clean hearts in both of you. (Psalm 51:10)

You and your husband need to talk with someone, preferably a professional Christian counselor. If funds are not available for this, then seek out a godly person you can trust and confide in. What a living testimony to God’s grace and redemption it will be to see your marriage saved, changed, and growing to God’s glory.

Dear Sister, it is not my intention to be harsh with you, but to tell you the truth in love. I’m sure you are in agony as you deal with a less than perfect marriage and now the conviction of adultery. Know that God loves you more than you can imagine and He wants to meet every need in your life. There are no hopeless situations or lives beyond His reach. Rest in His presence. Cry out to Him. He will rescue you. (Psalm 116:1-9, Psalm 40:1-3)

Let’s pray.

Dear Lord,

Only You truly know everything about this sister’s situation and her marriage. I see her coming to us as a cry for help. She is in over her head and feels like she’s drowning. Rescue her. She is confused and hurt. Please, Lord, giver her clarity of thought so she can pray and truly seek Your face. (1 Peter 4:7) Give her strength and courage to break off this other relationship and talk with her husband. Prepare his heart. Create a desire in both hearts do whatever it takes to make this marriage work. Show both of them areas of their marriage which require forgiveness and change. Where old love has died create new love, Your love. I pray You will minimize the “fall out” admission will bring. Use the fragmented pieces of all three lives to show Your power and glory.In the powerful name of Jesus I pray.
Amen

Side note: I have found Power of a Praying Wife to be a wonderful prayer guide for a anyone wanting to keep a strong marriage strong and give a floundering marriage strength. Please keep us posted.